Please Humanize-Me

Humanization is societal wellness. We can judge how healthy we are as a civilization based on how we how we treat each other. Humanization is healthy and feels so good to get and give. Humanization lets people breathe. Humanization lets people be themselves and lets others do the same.

Humanize Me is inspired by watching people hate each other because of ideology, insecurity or lacking kindness and ignorance. If you want a grass-roots movement where the people and the message speak, then this is it. We can start with the low hanging fruit.

Many and I mean many people are walking around and selectively humanizing. I believe that is maybe what people like Hitler do. Selective humanization with people in your socialpolitical groups is a null void. It is a disqualifier. Humanization is accross the board and even to people who deserve harshness because of a disgusting act. Hate the action, understand the person will bring wisdom.

Humanization is broad in application but the ones that drive the initial need for this movement are:

• Bullying and aggression in schools and work places.

• Social assassination where people gather and speak bad of someone not present.

• Hospital type settings where people are defenseless.

• Political polarization and the culture of intolerance and aggression.

Are you dehumanized now by anyone?

How to know:

• You feel harshly judged or attacked on the basis of a generality.

• You feel inaccurately judged and hurt from unfairness.

• You diminish your own value and accept less.

• You dehumanize others out of hurt and act like you have a license to hurt.

• You shrink from your personal capacity for your own greatness.

Are you dehumanizing others?

How to know:

• People who live in preconceived notions of certain groups of which you are intolerant and mean.

• People who think you are allowed to be hostile, harsh and aggressive.

• People who hate or have a serious broad sweeping dislike for politicians and supporters.

• People who blindly follow an ideology and feel that is the only solution.

• People who said something bad about another person which is not positive and fair to hurt them.

• People who over-celebrate another human - like an entertainer or politician.

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The Goal: Pull people back to factory settings. Kindness.

Our world has beauty and pain. The root of human conflict is the act of dehumanization. Humanize Me is a way to help individual and societal wellness by reducing conflict and replacing it with peace. You and I can increase how often people see others as humans or just things to hate. This is the Humanize Me Movement! Humanize Me is NOT affiliated with a political ideology.

You have experienced it.

Have you ever been angry and someone who showed you compassion and understanding and took away your pain? Have you ever received a hug and felt unity and peace? What if you felt that anger and hurt and there was no compassion shown? What if that anger and hurt was so intense that it needed a target to blame? It would take the unmet need of compassion and attack.

 If you know the release, peace and kindness experienced from receiving compassion, acceptance and understanding, then you have been humanized.

Where there is gossip, abuse, conflict, insecurity and aggression: there is dehumanization.

We are in a time where we know better but we are increasing depression, increasing polarization, increasing narcissism, increasing aggression, decreasing empathy and becoming desensitized to horrific acts. Humanization is lacking. Compassion is lacking. Connection is lacking.

Many schools and organizations teach anti-bullying, sexual harassment and anger management in addition to other programs. These are all head-oriented approaches where you have to stop your one behavior; you have to think about it. Humanization is heart driven and feels like gratitude. There is no reason for those head-oriented lessons or programs when we can humanize people.  Humanizing makes it impossible to hurt or abuse anyone. It is the antidote to a sick environment.

This is for all people who are the targets of people who simply dehumanized them. We need a nicer world. Humanization is the antidote to a poisoned world.

What we believe.

We believe the world is moving in the right direction and that we have more tolerance, education, freedom, less real poverty, distributed medicine and care. So, this should be good news. Unfortunately, we have more pain in a time of progress built on a small percentage of people who benefit by creating conflict.

These are ideological activists which must create monsters of people. We relate to each other way differently now 20+ years after the first social media site and now with smart phones. Social sciences say specifically, we are making judgmental narcissists, breeding insecurity through comparison and in a world where everything is connected, and loneliness and depression are growing at frightening levels. Since only hurt people can hurt people, we have to understand and change why we have so many hurt people. What if you could make an impact and pull people back from that state?

Human emotional pain which translates to mental pain very commonly stems from unmet needs. When we do not feel like we have been loved, cared for understood or have experienced compassion, part of us converts that unmet need into frustration and anger. That changes our behavior and ultimately creates a self-fulfilling cycle of getting more pain and then that justifies our aggression until it becomes our story and narrative. It is the biased filter through which we see life. Then, the emotional pain begins looking for a target of the pain and casts its crosshairs on groups or types of people or the population which does not agree with them. When that happens, the person or groups not in agreement is turned inhuman so that aggression can take place. Humanization, compassion, unity and connection can save people immediately and lift that darkness. It comes down to this: you cannot hurt someone that you have humanized.

How does it happen?

How does a human dehumanize? First thing which must be present is a notion that each person you have ever known or will ever meet, both nice or not nice is part of the same human fabric. Yes fabric. We are intrinsically linked like fabric. Do you believe that every person is our brother or sister? Of course. That is the starting point.

 When someone or some group (activists who attack, ideologues) target and isolate people into groups (republican, democrat, race, religion, sex...) they are ripping the fabric into smaller pieces. A ripped fabric is no good to anyone. Society needs the fabric to be intact as it is all of us working together.

Next, people left large groups like religion starting fifty years ago and accelerating now. This isolated people. Since people are social animals and want to be in groups and given an identity, they sought out and replaced religion with politics and causes which create an us versus them scenario. When we compound with more time on screens with less social interaction, intolerance grows.

 We cannot just be something and let others be so, we have created fear and made others responsible for our fear. Since fear can be created by ideologues, people see it as survival and that they are now in survival mode. Survival means that you can hate your enemy and attack (dehumanization).

Leaders of ideological areas of interest use raw emotion, reject self-constraint and reason and use the first law of persuasion which is to make people emotional. Groups need to make us abandon reason and they can control us. Emotions lie and we must all go back to seeking truth and reason. Take a break from our ideological ideas and ask what if what you think is partly a lie. What if it is a manipulation? What if you have been moved like a pawn in a game? Would you want to break free or be a robot and attack dog?

Insecurity, black and white thinking, fear, ignorance and a wanting to fit in are also reasons. When people gather and words are spoken about someone, that is not harmless. That affects the victims friendships, reputation, family, children and income. Speaking about people in what we call social assassination is a form of aggression and it is purposefully intended to hurt someone. You want people to believe what you say.

Dehumanization is our worst moment and one where we are not even happy. It is a shame-filled moment.

What topics does humanization cover?

As we say, anywhere there is conflict; humanization is the answer. Specific talks that we deliver address:

•             Bullying (school or workplace):  We are rooted in peaceful resolution. We discuss the profile of aggressors to remove fear. We provide tools based on this for neutralizing them and helping them see their behaviors. The training neutralizes the situation as it addresses the underlying cause. We provide situational factors to use, systemic solutions and mental and verbal jujitsu based on aggressor style. Finally, social assassination (talking about others which hurts people socially and in work).

•             Rehab hospitals where our elderly are at serious risk:  We create new narratives with the staff and help management create an empathetic culture for employees. We train the staff to see the patients as the people they are derive joy from participating in their life. We help pull staff out of their mind and into the moment and generate choice from humanization.

•             School/family/student conflict triad and the dehumanization of students:  Being treated like a college transcript. 'We conduct our Pressure Cooker talk which is a systematic breakdown leading to stress, depression and suicide. We discuss where stress is created, anxiety built and how control is unifying and brings back peace and love.

•             Aggressive political environments where we attempt to pull people from the extremes and return to the reasonable middle.  It is not okay to hate because of political reasons. It is not okay to hate others so quickly. We bring people back in time, discuss our greatest ideals and hopes, humanize each other and help people return. We help pull people back, let them breath and reduce the aggression in politics which makes us better. We teach wellness (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, relational) to groups as part of Kokoro.

•             We also teach:

•             Direct personal conflict resolution and safety.

•             Situational Awareness for Everyone (S.A.F.E.)

•             Verbal Jujuitsu to deal with social assassination types

•             Self-defense using situational awareness, current thinking and limited physical techniques.